I do love her~!

My mom... she's sooo awesome. I am getting married in 27 days, and i was home the day after thanksgiving. My mom was going through all the food that she and Martin is going to prepare for the reception. When she went on with the list of all my favorite food, my heart just melted. My parents are hard working people, and I didn't expect the things that they are going to prepare at the reception.

It was so nice of them to volunteer to pay for the food, cuz that cost alot too.

When i got home, mom had all my favorite food ready for me. At night time, she made my bed for me in the living room. Long story short, after i moved to college, my parents rent out my room to the LDS missionaries in the area. So, when i go home, i sleep on the couch in the living room. She had a clean sheet, nice pillows out for Steve and I.

The next day, Steve and I were heading back home. We had 10 hours of driving, and mom prepared a little bag full of fruits. she knows when we are on the road, we eat junky food. Isn't that the most amazing mom ever?

mymomisafob.com

This morning when i was checking my facebook, and I came across a website that all my Asian friends were raving about. I guess it was really funny, the name of the website seem interesting, so I went on to the website. Honestly, it was a little lame. I think all the things that my mom does can beat all of their moms. My mom is so Asian, such a typical Asian.... plus more.

"fob" is not a word that i am very fond of. It means " Fresh Off the Boat". Like back when the Chinese come to America on a big boat through the sea. Meaning they are fresh, and still has many Chinese traditions. This fob can apply to any other Asian race, it is a stereotype of what Asians are. For example, using a peace sign (putting two fingers up) for all pictures. Hello Kitty for everything... cloths, kitchen stuff... bedding, shower stuff... EVERYTHING...

Here is my mom with her papaya that she swears it's better to get them in the Korean store. Cuz they are more fresh. (yup, that's my mom... the one who told me to go get liposuction) I still love her very much, she just makes me frustrated sometimes.




I guess on the website "mymomisafob.com" shows all the things that Asian moms do. One of the moms labeled all the eggs... it was really funny. They are labeled "cooked" with blue pens.

Who would put a plate of raw eggs on the table anyway?

Mm... can't seem to be able to post the labeled egg picture, but check out the website. it's interesting.

One day, my mom decide to order a bunch of liquid soap. They are all the same scent. so, there is hand soap, and body wash. I guess my mom is just so excited to get these soaps, since she likes things that smells good. She was so excited, and she took a shower with one of the soaps. She called me later and told me how wonderful this soap is, and it has lots bubbles when you shower. Blah blah... so, i went home and saw in her shower...." Liquid Hand Soap" I was like.. mom...... that's for your hands. Not it's going to hurt you in anyway, but yeah....

She just laughed hysterically, I guess it is kinda funny. She said, " they all looked the same, and all said soap"

More fob stories... my mom and dad goes to a college near our house for walks quite often. They always come back with different things from the college. There is a pond, so one time they brough some gold fish home from that pond. All the fish in their fish tank is from the pond. Since then, the fish has multiplied. My parents start giving out the fish as presents to other chinese people.

There are a couple times my mom brought some fruit back from the college... there was also strawberries, lemons, oranges, pretty plants and many other things I can't seem to remember all of them. She'll save old breads or the cake sides (she bakes awesome cakes) to feed the ducks at the pond. At least she's contributing back to the college by feeding the ducks.

oh... moms.

Laying on the couch

My mother.... I think i should dedicate this blog to my mother. Even though we live 10 hours away from each other, our conversation on the phone has impact me more than any other thing. After the liposuction conversation, I just thought she's nuts. I wish she would not say some of the things she does, then I found a message that my brother wrote on one of our long time friends facebook wall... it says.." hey man, looks like you've gain a little weight xD haha how have you been? what's been going on?" Does my family say anything else besides telling other people that they are fat?

The funny thing is, my mother is not in any position the skinniest chinese woman. In the chinese culture, both of us would be called fat. Isn't that pathetic? I just think it's funny and sad that my little brother, who is 7 years younger than me, who is living with my parents in their house finishing his last year of high school, acts and talks like a real chinese cultured young man grew up in America! He speaks perfect English, probably more perfect than I would ever achieve. Anyways, both of us went to the same high school, had some of the same teacher, went to the same church functions, knows the same family. We both like my mom's chinese food. Despite all the hurtful words this woman may say to me (not on purpose, she's just blunt), her food is AMAZING~!! My bother doesn't like to use chopsticks, he can't write in chinese, but he speaks it fluently with some english words thrown in. We call that " Chinglish"

ok, I am totally going off tangent. Steve and I drove about 10 hours and finally arrived at my parents house. When I arrived, the door was not shut all the way. Which is pretty common, cuz the missionary who lives at my parents house often forget to shut the door. I walked up towards the door, pushed it open and saw my parents laying on the couch together. Nothing is wrong with the scene, i am used to seeing them laying on the couch like that. It was fine, except my mom screamed " ah!" in a high pitch suprised tone, and it made me feel awkward. Cuz I felt like I might have walked in on something that was going on, which I do not dare to ask. Nothing was going on... they were just laying on the couch watching their chinese shows. After hearing her suprised high pitched "Ah!", I quickly shut the door. My face turned red, you cant' really see the red, cuz i am chinese, but i can feel the burning sensation flooding over my cheek. Steve was right behind me, and his reaction was the same as mine. He thought I walked in on my little chinese parents doing naughty things. It was really funny. I re-knocked the door and waited for my mom to say " jing lai" ('come in' in chinese) I then walked into my parents house with my Steve. Steve and I both felt a little awkward, but my mom was just so happy to see us. That is why she screamed the high pich "ah!"... in a way, the scream kind of sounded like when you accidentally step on your cat's tail, and they make that high pich "meow!"

Anyway... my mom and dad wasn't doing naughty things... although it was strange . They need a bigger bedroom with their own flat screen TV.

Liposuction

to continue with my Chinese v.s. American....

Monday, i felt a little better to talk to my mother. I kind of forgive and trying to forget the fact that she called me fat to my face. We talked about who is coming to the wedding, and this woman is out of control!! She keeps on changing the menu, and i know she wants the best food for my wedding reception. AND THEN...... " you know, when I tell you that you are fat, it's our of love. Don't take it too personally..... Would you like to go get liposuction? I will pay for it!"

K... whoever is reading this, you probably know me. Do you seriously think that i deserve to be tortured under a liposuction rod throbbing under my tummy skin? I then asked my mother, " where do you think i need liposuction?" she responded quickly, " oh ... under your armpit, stomach, and your butt" I was like..." are you serious? do you seriously think I am so fat, ugly, unattractive that I actually need a liposuction? Why don't you go first and tell me how it feels afterward?"

This year, I finally learned to love my body after 23 years of criticism from the blunt chinese family that i have. Other Chinese girls have flat butt, and no boobs.... EVERYTHING IS FLAT Yes they are skinny, but I have curves! My fiance loves it! I love it, he loves it, that's all it matters.

I should write a book call " Blunt Chinese Effect"

Chinese v.s. American

This blog is inspired by the experienced with my super blunt Chinese family and all the fabulous American euphemism

#1 (The reaction of seeing my engagement photos)

My mom : You are getting so fat, you need to loose weight! are you hormone imbalanced?
American : Your pictures look soo cute~!

#2 someone trying to speak a foreign language

Hot pot lady in Provo saying this to a return missionary with a heavy chinese accent : oh, your chinese sucks, you need to practice more. and you got fatter since the last time i saw you.
American: that is so awesome that you can speak a different language!


I can not comprehend why my mother say the things she does. She called me last night, telling me that people in the Chinese ward has received my wedding invitation. Everyone is so happy for me, and...... she said this and made me want to fry her up in her own fat. " You look so fat in your engagement photo... can you still fit into your dress? My friend and i are thinking you are hormone imbalanced"

I can not believe ANY mother in this world would put their daughter down like this. She's not exactly lean by any mean. Chinese people see her as a fat/round woman. I hate the fact that in the chinese culture, people just say things so bluntly and hurt other people's feeling. No one has the right to tell me i am not. because i am not!! When my mother was my age, she was 2 times bigger than i am. She has no place whatsoever to call me fat.

Last time someone called Alice fat, she stopped eating. She became anorexic, even when she weight only 80 lbs, she still felt fat. Cuz people around her called her fat. Something like this could be prevented if people are more sensitive. Aliced died. a beautiful talented young woman died because the pressure of being skinny. Alice's mother was so sad, she couldn't even speak at her funeral.

Stop calling me fat! Unless you want me to end up like Alice!

I am thankful for my friends

Throughout my life, there are always people in my life who just influence me so much.

I am grateful for all my friends who were with me throughout different stages of my life. They have loved me, supported me, and just lifted me up. They have taught me many things from cooking, to primary children songs, to spinich dip, and help me to become a better person.



I am thank for for my best friend Bee, we will have the same last name in 50 days. Cuz we both will be married to a Peterson/Petersen. Bee taught me to be thoughtful, and be positive. She is always there to listen to me, and she bought me who knows how many meals when we were in Paris. She carried my backpack for me when we were walking in Paris, cuz she knows my back hurts from carrying it. She is a fabulous example, and i love this girl to death. so happy, so positive. and she plays piano amazingly... and she sings!! so smart. i don't know if i would pass my European Art class without her. She's always my cheer leader, telling me what I can do it!. and she's always excited for whatever i am doing.


My friends are just so awesome. i am so blessed to have them.

Cindy, or Cindizzle... beautiful girl with big big big heart~!! so funny, so much love, and so creative. I love our time in Paris eating snails in a non smoking section that smells like smoke in Paris. Cindy always laugh at my stupid jokes, and laugh really hard at it.






Mary, intellegent girl! taught me how to express myself without killing the other person. and get the other person to be on my side. She should have been a lawyer.

Cara and Hannah, both are so happy and funny. Just be happy with life... so hippy. They are both soft spoken, but crazy from the inside. Hannah's spinich dip is amazing, and Cara gives amazing massages. both of them do!

Emily, she watshes dishes when i am freaking out that other roomates didn't. Cuz she knows it will make me feel better. She is one of the nicest person i've ever met. even though she says she's not. Very selfless, and always willing to help in whatever situation. She took our engagement pics.

Marie... oh Marie. the sweet sweet Marie. I love Marie. tender heart! she's always here in the office to listen to me. Marie, such a great example, so much love. And soooo funny.

here is a shout out to all my friends whos name I did not list. I didn't forget you, i just can't list all right now. I am so grateful for you, for your love and support. I am grateful that you accept who i am. Thank you for letting me into your lives, and little something from you!

I love my baby~!!

Steve woke up at 2:30 in the morning, and wrote this to me. It totally made me smile.... and yes, we are really weird in our own way.

Top 50 Reasons That I LOOOOVE YOU!
(In no particular order)

I LOVE YOU BECAUSE…

1. You are super cute.
2. You always make me smile.
3. You are always yourself around me.
4. It is amazingly fun to hang out with you.
5. You make the most amazing “add sausage become rice”.
6. You let me be myself.
7. You make me laugh with your weirdness (turtle pose, worm pose).
8. You are 超级性感！
9. You speak Chinese.
10. You are the Ying to my Yang.
11. You worry about things to make up for the fact that I don’t.
12. You are the perfect height and size for me.
13. You are very artistic.
14. You share my love for pugs.
15. You are not from Utah or Idaho!
16. You are an amazing surfer!
17. You bring out the best in me.
18. You always send me text messages and little notes and things.
19. You are really cute, even when you are mad.
20. You bite. GRRRRRR!
21. You are very loving and caring.
22. You are a great kisser!
23. You are cultured.
24. You are very well educated and love to learn.
25. You put up with all of my crap.
26. You don’t get mad when I win (ok, so you do, but I still love you)
27. You can snowboard.
28. You have an amazing family.
29. You have a crazy family.
30. You put up with my crazy family.
31. You give amazing massages.
32. You know how to make me happy.
33. You always try to make sure I am happy.
34. You always worry about me.
35. You are very easy to please.
36. You watch cartoons and put up with football and basketball.
37. You are not fake in any way.
38. You are a dork.
39. You love me even though I am also a dork.
40. You love to snuggle.
41. You are always looking for ways to help me.
42. HAHAHA the turtle pose.
43. You genuinely care about everyone’s feelings.
44. You are my 小猪猪。
45. You don’t care that I have a big head and little hands.
46. You never stay mad at me for more than a couple hours.
47. It is impossible to get mad at you.
48. We always kiss and make up.
49. You love me!
50. But most of all, we are PERFECT FOR EACH OTHER!!!! MUAH MUAH MUAH!!!!! I love you Forever!

He made history~!

Obama is our next president~!! It's exciting. I think both MCcain and Obama fought a long way. I am excited to see what Obama has in place for us. Some people are very upset, some people are very excited. I think it's a great opportunity that we can give Obama to prove himself that he is worthy of this position.

All and all... US will be okay. and changes aren't bad~!

Voting day~!!

It was successful vote for me. I registered 3 weeks ago, and got my mail in ballot last monday, and i send it out on tuesday. So i was set... ! I have fulfilled the duty of an American citizen~!! Hey, i do care!

And... being the voting day, i have received a text from one of my friends in college. It says, "Due to long lines today, all Obama voters are asked to vote on Wednesday. Please tell all of your friends"

My reaction was.... busted out laughing! Kinda sucks for Obama, but it also shows how many people are desperate to make sure Obama is not elected. We will see. I just thought the text is funny, and i went online to google it. Guess what, this is so rediculous! someone actually got a random phone call telling them the same thing. vote Obama on Wednesday. oh people.....

anywho.. I would like to say "good job!" to both canidate, cuz they try so hard to do what's right. if Steve ssees this, he's going to faint. cuz he knows how limited my politics knowledge is. I love you hon!!! don't judge me. I think everyone deserves a big hug, and a pad on their back.